A Gift for Single People

To: You

From: Eight at Eight!

The infectuous Holiday spirit has grabbed hold of us. We have a gift for all of you singles out there. But, just like a gift under the tree, you can't have it now. We'll be ripping the gift wrap off of this puppy the first of the year! Until then, keep your filthy mits off the box, people! Remember: patience is a virtue.

Happy Holidays!

New Year's (Pe)Eve!

Every holiday or major event comes with its share of annoyances. New Year's Eve is no different. Why is it that we all seem to suffer from collective amnesia when it comes to NYE? Thinking back, most of my nights out on December 31st were nightmares, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Why do we always claim to have a wonderful time on NYE when, in fact, its generally a major pain? Is it the booze? The overwhelming hopefulness of the coming year? Am I just a grump? You tell me: here are some of my most aggravating experiences during New Year's Eve nights out.

1) The bathroom line.

You know this has happened to you: It's 40 minutes until the New Year, so you rush to the bathroom to beat the lines and be back in time for Dick Clark to count down that giant ball. Like you, everyone in the building is operating according to the same strategy. Just as you approach the stall, the chant begins... 10, 9, 8... Another new year celebrated amid a stack of seat covers!

2) Party favors.

Confetti. Annoying horns. Silly Hats. Beads. 'Nuff said.

3) Too Many People.

You drop $150 for the most happening party in town. You get to the door and its stacked 50 deep at the bar. The door guy approaches you and offers V.I.P. treatment for an additional $50, which takes you upstairs to a bar that is merely 40 people deep! And don't be fooled by the 2 AM breakfast buffet--it's bad...

4) Vomit.

Someone, without fail, will throw up in proximity to you. It's a fact of life.

5) Taxis.

4-leaf clovers are easier to come by than a cab on New Year's Eve. By 3 AM, you'd give the deed to house for a guy pulling a rickshaw and a bottled water.

6) Where'd my friend go?

You're at a party in the ballroom of a hotel and there are 6000 people amid disco lights and smoke. You're going to get separated from your group. You will not find them. Why? Because they are in the bathroom line (see #1).

I must admit, though, that the best NYE celebrations have always been at a friend's house, away from the sound and the fury, the hustle and the bustle. Do yourself a favor: avoid the throng of people. Invite your nearest and dearest over. Buy a few bottles of bubbly (grape juice or champagne, whichever floats your boat), and then make a resolution to do it more often. You'll thank us. Here's wishing you a happy, healthy 2009!

Return to Normalcy...

The election is over. I think all of us can agree it was both a grueling and exhilerating process. Most of us are exhausted by all the presidential rhetoric and incessant advertisements by this time, but it did provide some exciting drama and more than a few laughs (Tina Fey, anyone?).

If you are anything like me, you've put your life on hold for the last month or so, spending your free time picking apart debates and waiting for the obligatory gaff or Freudian slip. But now that its all over, its time to return to your life. Here's some suggestions for returning to your life without elections!

1) TiVo: You have the last 11 episodes of "The Office," several hours of "90210" that you accidentally recorded, and several bad guys have been arrested on "CSI:Topeka" that you have completely missed. The Holiday season is approaching, so we advise the following: go to the gym and have a killer workout, then sit in front of the tube for a weekend and catch up on your favorite shows. Yeah, its lazy and unproductive, but we'll forgive you!

2) Reconcile: Admit it--you let a few friendships wither a bit due to political reasons. Now that the election is over, you can resume normal communication. Invite that dumbass who voted for XYZ for lunch. And be cordial. Presidential terms last four years; good friends last forever.

3) Movie Time: Here's how the cycle works-summer is for blockbuster popcorn flicks like Iron Man and The Dark Knight. Fall is usually the dead zone where the studios dump all the crap that's left at the bottom of the barrel on us. However, winter is when the good stuff comes out. Expect a great Pixar movie and all the "prestige" films that are gunning for Academy Awards in February. Grab your local listings and check out a good movie.

4) Uh, Eight at Eight? Hello!: You knew this was coming, right? The Holidays are quicky approaching, which means lots of travel and shopping and parties. Have some you time before this hullaballoo starts in earnest. Plus, you might meet someone intriguing to take to the Holiday parties at work.

5) Volunteer: Thanksgiving is busy time at our local homeless shelters. How about give something back this season? Yeah, its time consuming, but it beats watching five consecutive episodes of "Gray's Anatomy" while eating pizza, no?

Dating Horror Stories

Special Halloween Edition!

As was I sitting in the office sucking down all the mini-Snickers that were supposed to be for trick-or-treaters, I began to get in the Halloween spirit. I started contemplating all the usual Halloween topics--favorite scary movies, best costumes, old school ghost stories, etc. This got me thinking: what about dating horror stories. We all have them, and, being that this a dating blog, it certainly would be apropos. I remembered this little gem from The San Francisco Chronicle that appeared a few years ago about the foibles on online dating. Take a look. It's funny stuff!

I'll be sticking with this theme for the duration of the month, tossing out bits of Halloween-themed tidbits. I love Halloween -- maybe its the devil in me.

Love Songs, Etc.

It's a dreary, rainy day here at the office. A disc jockey at a local radio station commented that this gray mess is perfect "love makin'" weather. I don't take issue with his correlation of "nookie" and rainy days. What I do have a problem with is the song choice that followed. I'm sure you've guessed it already-- Marvin Gaye, "Let's Get It On." It's a certified classic, no arguments here, but its time to retire it. Its a cliche of itself. Boring white septuagenarian dentists can sing every word. Not to mention, there are far better (and sexier) songs in the Marvin Gaye oeuvre. A staw poll here at the office reveals a stronger preference for "You're All I Need to Get By" and "Sexual Healing."

All of this discussion brought us to this: what other sacred cows in the love song genre need to taked down, or, perhaps, just out of rotation for a few years. Here are a few tired songs and our suggested replacements. Feel free to chime in. (You're right... we do a whole lot of goofing off at work.)

Get rid of it: "Take My Breath Away" by Berlin
Substitute: "I'll Be Your Lover Too" by Van Morisson

Get rid of it: "Every Breath You Take" by The Police
Substitute: "Wicked Game" by Chris Isaak

Get rid of it: Anything by Sade
Substitute: Anything by Maxwell

Get rid of it: "Unchained Melody" by The Righteous Brothers
Substitute: "You Are So Beautiful" by Joe Cocker

Get rid of it: "A Groovy Kind of Love" by Phil Collins
Substitute: "I've Got Dreams to Remember" by Otis Redding.

No arguing:
"At Last" by Etta James
"Bring It On Home to Me" by Sam Cooke
"Your Song" by Elton John

Let us know what you think. This has prompted a rather heated discussion here at Eight at Eight Headquaters! And here's hoping that the weather improves. If it doesn't, well... I'm sure you can find something to occupy your time.

Dating Etiquette During Election Season

I know, I know: when vetting potential partners, you need to know about their political views. I get that. However, there is a time and a place! More than a few otherwise charming and adorable singles have been written off due to their political fervor that is, quite frankly, off putting. To that end, we've brainstormed this idea at the office and came up with some do's and do-not's until you pull the election lever.

1) Never assume someone shares your opinion.
Example: "Can you believe that [candidate x] wants to [insert controversial proposal here]? I mean, the nerve, right?

2) Asking someone's party affiliation might not fly until after the 1st month milestone.
If your conversations with potential matches go something like this, you may be in trouble.

You: Hi, I'm Karen.
Him: I'm David.
You: Nice to meet you, David. What do you do?
Him: I'm an investment banker.
You: Oh, yeah? That's interesting.
Him: What about y---
You: (interrupting) Democrat or Republican?
Him: Wow, I was just...
You: (interrupting) Answer the question, flip-flopper!

3) As a rule, politics and religion make poor conversation fodder.
Yeah, I get it: the weather is dull. But you know what? Dull has never offended anyone, either. Politics might fly a little better on odd-numbered years, but during election season, everyone is a bit more inclined to tear your head off. Think about it: the pundits on cable news can't even speak in a civil manner about elections, so how can two strangers, particularly when after the second pinot noir?

4) Opposites attract, so don't shut the door on those who disagree with you.
Think: Carville and Matalin. Political differences can be overcome, but don't make that the first hurdle. Focus on someone's personality, their manners, hell, their looks! In general, its tough to seek only those who match you perfectly on ever idea and hobby. Imagine the difficulty of finding a lapse-Catholic, rock-climbing, vegan, Libertarian, Harley-enthusist, competitive video gaming, scrapbooking attorney who has a 401(k) and loves dogs, but not cats. Good luck with that...

As always, we return to our mantra of sorts: be yourself, relax, extend others some courtesy, and you'll be fine. And maybe you should consider leaving the Obama or McCain "flair" at home.

We Love Our Job....Unsolicited Success Stories

"I had lunch yesterday with a nice girl who just moved to town from NYC. She said her friend met her husband through 8 at 8!"

Cute as a Button!

Our office enjoys getting to hear feedback after the dinner party. One thing we've been hearing more and more is how fantastic our hostesses are! The New York hostess, Ashley, has gotten lots of great accolades recently. Hear more of what our clients are saying....

"I went to the dinner event last night. The restaurant was fantastic. Good group of people. Ashley was a great hostess."

"I was really kind of nervous (this was my first dinner) but Ashley made all the difference! She was so warm and welcoming ~ I very much enjoyed all of my dinner companions and the restaurant was great as well. Thanks for a marvelous evening!"

"Ashley is a nice hostess and very friendly."

"Still think Ashley is cute as a button; the friendliest and most comfortable of the 8@8 greeters I've met. "

"I also wanted to mention how wonderful our hostess, Ashley, was ~ she made us all feel so comfortable in what could have been an awkward, uncomfortable situation!"

Eight at Eight Loves THE REGULAR GUYS!

Ok, I'm totally obsessed with Atlanta's favorite Rock Station 100.5. The Regular Guys in the morning are the coolest dudes on the radio. I'm smitten. Here are some pics from my most recent visit.

Photo #1 - Larry Wachs

Photo #2 - Tim Andrews - Producer and Gary Lewis - General Manager.

Wall Street Journal Mentions Eight at Eight in Article about Group Dating

DID YOU SEE US IN THE WALL STREET JOURNAL FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 12TH?

By HANNAH SELIGSON To the untrained eye and ear, the scene of young professionals sipping cocktails with a steady stream of popular music playing in the background seemed like a typical Thursday night at Forum, a trendy Union Square watering hole for those born around, say, 1983. The only clues that there could be something out of the ordinary taking place were a bright orange sign that said "Ignighter" and a large supply of blue drink tickets that were cycling through the crowd. No, this wasn't a corporate morale booster, an alumni gathering or a charity event. It was a group date.

Group-dating -- think of it as double-dating on steroids or as Facebook in the flesh -- is making a noticeable blip on the dating radar, as a younger generation turns away from such courtship rituals as the blind date. Even Web sites like e-Harmony and Match.com have become passé. Instead of just going out alone or in pairs, a bunch of people -- roughly equal numbers of each sex -- engage in a social activity together. One group of three or four friends meets up with another.

Group-dating plays to the tastes of a generation that's become disillusioned with Internet dating sites, particularly the lies that users tell about themselves online; the futile process of trying to meet people at bars; and blind dates that feel like job interviews. Instead, these young men and women want to have their dating lives simulate the way they meet people in real life: through concentric circles of friends. Especially for recent college graduates who suddenly find themselves without the social anchors of a campus, going out on "a random," as Internet dates are referred to, is like jumping into a pool of sharks.

Ignighter.com, a free site geared toward 20-somethings (their median age is 24), was created in 2007 to solve these problems. The site is the brainchild of Daniel Osit, 26, and Adam Sachs, 25, who found themselves bereft of any appealing dating options when they graduated from college. "Our social lives were so routine, and we weren't meeting anyone. We wanted to come up with a way to meet new people and still be with our friends," Mr. Sachs said.

On Ignighter.com, groups are formed through an ambassador -- a kind of social director -- who invites his or her friends to join. The group is given a name, a members' photo is montaged together from the individual ones that have been submitted (creating a sort of artificial group picture), information about the group is filled in, and a link to everyone's Facebook profile is inserted. Then, the dating begins. And this is where it becomes a bit different from your typical singles event. Groups go out with other groups. Any individual in the group can ask another group out on a date, but everyone in the group goes, eliminating some of the awkwardness that plagues singles events.

Group-dating came on the scene in 1998 with 8at8, a service that sets up dinner dates with four men and four women and now has 25,000 members in six major metropolitan areas. Then came the Internet and, with it, sites like TeamDating.com, which has a concept similar to Ignighter's. TeamDating's 40,000 members are concentrated mostly in urban areas and field teams that average three people. Ignighter's 10,000 users also mostly hail from big cities.

IamFreeTonight.com allows its 70,000 users to post double-date and group-date listings. Meet New People, a Facebook dating application, has more than three million users who post when they are free to "hang out" and RSVP to group gatherings.
The groups often try activities a little more adventurous than dinner and a movie, perhaps because there is less one-on-one pressure to impress than on a traditional date. Participants go bowling, take a hiking trip or try a night at the Philharmonic.

The concept, of course, is nothing new. "There's been a long history of group-dating in this country," says Beth Bailey, the author of "From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth Century America." "In the 1920s, people went to 'petting parties,' where young people made out in the presence of their peers. It was a way of saying 'I belong to youth culture.'"

While the sexual license of "petting parties" shocked Jazz Age parents, by the 1940s and 1950s group-dating was encouraged for reasons of propriety. "Parents wanted to keep their daughters from being alone with a man, since having a child out of wedlock would ruin your life back then," says Ms. Bailey.

And, of course, many religious communities have continued to promote group-dating throughout the 20th century. "Group-dating is the only kind of dating we encourage up until about the age of 20," says David Pack, the Pastoral General of the Restored Church of God, in Wadsworth, Ohio. "It's a lot easier to maintain barriers with other people around."

But there are others who worry about what this trend means for young people. Dan Cere, the author of "The Experts' Story of Courtship," a report put out in 2000 by the Institute for American Values, is concerned that this practice is part of a "hanging out and hooking up" culture. If a group date ends in men and women pairing off to engage in some kind of sexual activity, he says, it "may feed into a male tendency toward loose, noncommitted sexual relationships with women."

But talk to women who group date and you find that they are not looking for no-strings-attached relationships. Just as group-dating protected women of the Greatest Generation, many today see it as a shield. "I don't know how willing I would be to go on a date with a stranger," explains Jacqueline Malan, 25, who has been in two groups set up through Ignighter.

Ray Doustdar, the co-founder of TeamDating, says his most positive feedback isn't from men giddy about doubling, tripling or quadrupling their odds on date night; it's from female participants who are relieved to have found a certain amount of security. The guys, meanwhile, see the perks as social lubrication and a fleet of ready wingmen.

In many ways, 21st-century group-dating is a confluence of its past iterations. It's become a way for people to identify with youth culture, the Facebook generation's rebellion against the traditional dating model, and a means for women to dial down the pressure of today's hypersexualized dating scene. All while increasing the odds that these faces in a crowd will find the right someone.

Ms. Seligson is the author of "New Girl on the Job: Advice From the Trenches."

Professional Matchmaking & Date Coaching Worldwide Conference

Hi - I'm spending this weekend at an energizing conference with other professionals in the Matchmaking Industry. It is a small, boutique industry and I'm learning a lot. I'll detail more on this blog over the next week. I've got lots of pictures and have learned about a lot of unique services.

XOXO,
Sarah Kathryn

OK Magazine - Hot off the Press!

Wow - this media coverage is awesome! We're thrilled to report that OK Magazine has featured Eight at Eight as one of it's Top 10 Ways to Find Love.

#1 Eight is great. Unconventional daters may want to test-drive the Eight at Eight Dinner Club, where singles can mingle without stress. "Members meet in groups of four single men and four single women for an evening of stimulating conversation, good food and a chance to find romance," says company president Sarah Kathryn Smith. "The relaxed group setting relieves the pressure of one-on-one dates." Best of all: Eight at Eight boasts a track record of 100 marriages! Visit www.8at8.com to learn more

Washington D.C. Dinner at Cafe Delux

Our expansion into the DC market is going really really well. Our core membership of singles ages 27-35 have turned out in a major way. Eight at Eight is attracting super successful, over-educated, ridiculously attractive singles together over dinner. And it is working......Stay tuned for more success stories from Washington.

A Lucky Couple Weds on August 8th, 2008!

Nothing motivates our staff more than hearing about singles having success with Eight at Eight. Chad and Wendy met on 08/08/07 and wed on 08/08/08. Congratulations to both of you and we wish you a lifetime of wonderful memories! Thank you for sharing your good news with us.

Dear Eight at Eight,

I wanted to let you know that I met my now husband last year at your August 8th event. We just celebrated our one year meeting anniversary a few days ago on 8/8/8 after our honeymoon in Costa Rica. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to meet Chad! Thank you for your work to bring couples together. We tell people about you all the time!

Sincerely,

Wendy

Atlanta Dinner at Spice Market

Last night we hosted two tables at Atlanta's newest restaurant, Spice Market. I have to admit that I was skeptical that this off-shoot of the Manhattan restaurant would get it right. I was absolutely amazed at my experience there. The food and spices were amazing. The service top notch. I can't wait to return.

"I had a lovely time! The restaurant was great and the conversation was very pleasant! Thanks again!"

"Dinner was great last night."

"Thanks for the invite. I enjoyed the event. The food and
the company were great."

* Special thanks to those in this photo. It is difficult to convince 8 complete strangers to pose for photos. We appreciate you letting us use your image to spread the word!

NYC Hostess Ashley visits Headquarters!

Our office celebrated getting to host Ashley at headquarters. She spent the afternoon reaching out to members to see if they are interested in attending some of the events she has planned in August and September. Ashley is currently pursueing her PhD at Columbia. Meet her at the next dinner you attend!

D.C. Launch is a Success!

Sixth market is up and running!

I have just returned from my trip to DC to host one of our first events at PS7's, and it went beautifully! Thanks to all of your for your help and patience while we got our newest venture off the ground. If the first few dinners are any indication, DC is going to be one of our most vibrant and exciting markets!

We've met DC members who were referred by friends who've been 8at8 clients in Chicago and Atlanta, so word-of-mouth has been a huge benefit to us. We cannot thank enough those of you who have helped make our newest launch a success. On that note, if you have friends in family in the metropolitan Washington area who are ready to get off the internet dating merry-go-round and meet some terrific upscale singles, please pass our name along!

We have some great events planned for DC in the coming weeks, including dinners at Tuscana West and Cafe Deluxe. Visit our Events page for a list of things to come in all six of our markets and get signed up today!

Does Technology Bring Us Together?

One of the first victims of the technology age was the letter. Think about it: when was the last time you sat down and wrote a letter, on paper and with a pen. In this age of instant gratification, we've come to a point where we are often losing face-to-face contact. I mean, where would you be without checking your email? And I know we have more than a few "Crackberry" addicts out there. The text message, certainly a time-saver and a convenience, even distances you a step further from hearing someone's voice on a telephone call. And, to be honest, I've completely "un-learned" how to write in cursive!

I'm sure you've all had that moment where you've sent an email and, being that email has no "tone" or tone of voice or body language to accompany it, the recipient misinterprets what you mean. A short reply is read as being curt or rude. A joke on your part is read as a jab by the reader. Electronic communication has made the world smaller, but in many ways it has driven a wedge between us. Its so easy to text a "hello," but whatever happened to meeting for a cup of coffee to catch up? Don't get me wrong-- technology has done amazing things for us, but, deep down, it has been at the expense of a piece of our humanity.

I think thats one of the great things about Eight at Eight. Its offline, so there is none of false statements and fake personas you find on the internet. You are sitting in front of other real human beings, exploring the possibility of romance and friendship in a real setting, not some virtual chat room. And no matter how technologically advanced we become, we will always need to EAT. So, when you sit down for dinner with people, you're engaging in an activity that has been around as long as time, sharing conversation and a few laughs in a way that isn't that far removed from how your grandparents and their grandparents shared a meal. Eight at Eight, and, for that matter, any other form of face-to-face activity, reconnects you with people. No typing, no wi-fi, no damn smiley faces made out of punctuation marks.

So, the next time you go out to catch a ball game with friends, sit down for a drink, or grab a quick bite to eat with your buddies, realize that you are sharing in experiences that cannot be replicated on your iPhone or by clicking a mouse. Technology is great and we all benefit from it, but make sure you're taking the time in your life to get back in touch with the real, the living and the breathing. And, when you get the time, grab the stationary and drop someone a line so that the art of letter-writing won't be lost forever.

Fashion Tips from Eight at Eight

Okay, I'll admit it: the term "fashion" is sort of pretentious, which is the opposite of what Eight at Eight is about. Let's re-title this "What to wear," shall we? The goal of Eight at Eight is for you to have a good time, to be comfortable, and to enjoy yourself. To that end, follow these tips to make sure your night out is as enjoyable as possible.

1) Wear whatever you would normally wear on a first date.
That is assuming, of course, that your first dates aren't typically at a monster truck rally or a roller derby. Our restaurants are upscale, but never stuffy, so guys-- ditch the tie, and ladies-- save the ball gown for, well, a ball.

2) Check out the restaurant's website.
You can always get the vibe of restaurant by taking a look at their website. Your confirmation emails from us will include a link to you event's destination. If the photos of the site are kicking a trendy/chic vibe, dress accordingly. If you're still unsure, don't hesitate to phone the restaurant and speak directly with the reservationist. They'll be happy to give you the skinny.

3) Jeans ARE appropriate.
Nine out of ten times, denim is apropos for Eight at Eight's restaurants. That doesn't mean you should pull out your Axl Rose knee-hole Levis. Rather, dress up your casual clothing! Women can easily transform their favorite jeans into evening wear with a nice cardigan, a dressy top, or a pair of heels. Gentlemen: a long-sleeved shirt tucked in always looks great, and a sport coat and denim is a can't lose. By the same token, though, don't hesitate to dress DOWN your work gear. By losing the tie, a dress shirt and slacks is a perfectly appropriate and classy choice. Skirts and a blouse minus the jacket makes a great first impression.

4) Remember, its about comfort and fun.
The most important thing is that you come prepared to relax and enjoy yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. The attitude you exude says so much more about you than the clothes on your back. So, in conclusion, don't sweat the small stuff. Smile, kick back, and be yourself, and you are well on your way to an enjoyable night out.

Don't Poke the Bear at the Zoo!!!

Justin, marketing & promos guru, lets you behind the curtain.

Most of you don't know me. I'm the marketing guy. You get my emails, you've seen my ads, you've more than likely attended some of my promotional events. Yet, on top of all these duties, there is one job I cherish: the only GUY in the office. I get to lift the heavy boxes, I get to the be the bodyguard for the lovely ladies in the office when we go out to events. And when on that rare occasion someone decides to take a shot at my co-workers, I get to be the D.R. (Designated Responder). Don't get me wrong-- the vast majority of our clients and contacts are terrific, kind people. I get far more friendly correspondence than anything else. However, there is a certain anonymity to email that makes people think they can say whatever they like without reproach. Uh, wrong. You see, many cowardly, unhappy souls like to belittle others to make themselves feel better, and email proves a perfect forum. Most of these unkind people wouldn't have the audacity to criticize someone face to face, but they'll happily send a snarky, rude email. And when this inevitably happens (rarely, but it does), I graciously allowed to retort on behalf of the office. Some examples:

1) Inaugural vs. 1st Annual
I sent out an email blast thanking everyone for their attendance at our "first annual Eight at Eight Beach Trip to Destin, Florida." One guy decided to take me to task.

"First annual is incorrect usage. It should be "inaugural". I prefer to spend time with people who know the difference."

Au contraire, mon ami! My response:

Dear XYZ,

We carefully considered the usage of the term "first annual" prior to sending out our email. Just to be certain, we consulted Paul Brian's "Common Errors in English Usage." According to Brian:

"Some people get upset when the “first annual” occurrence of some event is announced, arguing that it doesn’t become annual until it’s been repeated. But “first annual” simply means 'the first of what is planned to be an annual series of events'—it’s a fine expression."

We in the office find that Brian's book is particularly useful when English usage questions come up. We've included the link to purchase the book from Amazon.com should you ever find yourself in need of such a manual.

http://www.amazon.com/Common-Errors-English-Usage-Brians/dp/1887902899/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1211385853&sr=8-1

2) The Inappropriate Guy
Some of Eight at Eight's best employees are pulled right from our client roster. We always try to find sociable, outgoing, and friendly people to host our events. So, when we find ourselves in need of someone new, we comb our email list before ever placing an ad. This practice, though, troubled one of our members.Below is response to one of my coworkers:

Do I get to bang guests for free as part of my salary?  I think you should include that as a perk.  Haha, why would you send this
out to perspective customers? It lowers the perceived value of 8at8 as a service. Why not
hire a bumb by a bridge who could enjoy the free  booze and food?

No so fast, Skippy! No one talks to my coworkers that way! "Banging!" "Booze!" My response:

Dear ABC,  We frequently send out our job postings and event notices to our members, former members
and prospective clients (note that I used the word "prospective," the appropritate word,
as opposed to "perspective," as you did below). We've found in our 10 years of business,
which dates back to when you were a whopping 15 years old!) that word-of-mouth is the best
way to recruit both customers and employees. The vast majority of our employees and clients
have been referred by friends. And seeing as how we are opening our sixth market in  Washington, D.C.
next month, I feel certain that the consensus is that our "perceived
value" hasn't been lowered whatsoever as a result of our methods.    And as for
"banging" guests -- You sound like such a charming guy. I can't imagine why a
25-year-old in the prime of his life for the bar/singles scene, would have even expressed
interest in our dating service! I'm sure you're laying pipe all over the city! Charming
guy like you?? And since you see no value in our service, I've removed you from our
email list. 

Note the spelling of the word "bum" as well. Long story made short-- don't be that guy.
Our email blasts are made to be informaland quickly digested. Nobody likes a jackass,
either. So, please enjoy your stay at the zoo. Just remember, don't poke the bears!

Your Drink Order Speaks Volumes...

The old saying lifted from the dandruff commercial about never getting a second chance to make a first impression turns out to be true. We often get feedback from our clients and hostesses that speak volumes about our dinner guests-- their drink choice.

Before we delve into this, let's be clear: drink what you like. It's your dinner, it's your liver. Likewise, most of the below statements are gross generalizations, so keep that in mind. We're just having a little fun with some of the tendencies we've seen over the year.

Wine
Red or White, it doesn't matter. It's sophisticated, goes great with a meal, and, without too much spinning and sniffing, is an unpretentious selection for your dinner date. White Zin? Your first hint should be that you can get it at Chuck E. Cheese. Avoid.

Beer
Domestic beer has struggled to overcome its blue collar stereotypes, but it alerts everyone at the table that you aren't overly concerned with appearances. You can even step up your game-- order a refreshing hefeweizen (wheat beer) like Hoegarrden or Paulaner served in an attractive tall glass. Even better, opt for a delicious Belgian beer, every bit as sophisticated as a glass of wine and just as versatile with food. However, like wine, avoid playing the snob card. It's unattractive.

Martini
It's a classic for a reason. It's not fruity, meaning you can handle your booze. It's classy, with not an ounce of pretentiousness. A caviat: they're potent, one too many and your great vacation story becomes obscured by your slurring. You've been warned.

Cosmopolitan
Ten years ago, the Cosmo was a perfectly acceptable cocktail for dinner. Now, you look like a Carrie Bradshaw wannabe. It's fine if you like the show, but if it comes off as a TV-show derivative, you risk looking a bit silly.

Scotch
The essential manly man's drink that, paradoxically, work's better in the hand of the ladies. It reflects both refinement and confidence, but it also is more appropriate with certain meals than others. Steak and other hearty foods? Go for it. Comfort food or upscale Mexican? No so much.

Margarita
Speaking of Mexican, its the go-to drink for that most sociable and fun of cuisine. Outside of the confines of such a restaurant, though, and it looks like you're still in college. Its always fine as a starter, but move on to something more "adult" with your meal.

Vodka
Have it straight, with cran, with orange juice, with tonic. It doesn't matter. It's refreshing and always a winner. The same holds true for gin.

Shots
You're at a dinner party, not a kegger. Refrain.

Bourbon
With coke or water, its another certifiable classic libation. With just about anything else (Red Bull), it smacks of desperation. Mint Julep, you ask? It's a lie perpetuated on humanity by the people of Kentucky. Nobody likes them, and they probably never have. Therefore, a dinner order screams "fake."

Champagne and Sparkling Whites
Classy and refined. However, we feel champagne is best reserved for romantic one-on-ones and celebrations. Open bar at a wedding? Knock yourself out.

Again, take all of this with a grain of salt. The most important thing while out on a dinner date is to be yourself. Don't order a drink to impress others. We humans are intuitive creatures, and we generally can see right through it. That being said, take in to account the vibe of the restaurant, the food you will be pairing your drink with, and they company you're keeping. With a little careful consideration, you can't go wrong.

8 at 8 in Playboy

We're so excited to be featured in the June 2008 issue of Playboy magazine. Under the "Advisor" section, the editors list Eight at Eight as the way for the "modern man" to meet women!

We've already been getting a great deal of calls from gentlemen who've seen the article and want to get involved. So, guys-- welcome aboard. Ladies, hang tight. A new batch of wonderful single men are on the horizon.

If you've got single friends looking to meet new people, tell them about us. After gaining exposure with first Oprah and now Hugh Hefner, you can rest assured we're the best value in the matchmaking game!

Founder of Eight at Eight: Tom Parker - Happy Birthday Eight at Eight! Today we’re turning 9 years old.

The Godfather of 8at8 is Tom Parker a brilliant consultant and creative genius. In 1998 he started 8at8 by developing the trademark, original website and logo. After creating this clever business, he decided to persue other opportunities and sold his interest in 8at8 to me, Sarah Kathryn Smith, in 1999.

Although he doesn’t live in any of our operational cities, he has been a wonderful resource and consultant to me for many years. He is invaluable and I had the opportunity to have a drink with him in Chicago when our business trips overlapped. We talk monthly and everytime I hang up I am energized by his vision for 8at8. Thank you Tom for everything – you are THE BEST. You gave me the opportunity to pursue my dream of being a matchmaker. Creating quality matches has been one of the most rewarading accomplishments in my life. Thank you!

We Missed you in Destin - Eight at Eight's 1st Annual Vacation!

Wow - the trip to Destin was more fun than we ever imagined. Our group of 30+ got along like old friends. We enjoyed a day on the beach, a cocktail cruise, lots of fruity drinks and yummy seafood. A fantastic bunch bonded in Destin, Fl for a 3 day weekend of fun, sun, and lots of making out! To see pictures of the weekend click HERE.

Don't miss the next trip. We're tossing around the idea of taking a ski trip this winter. It will be especially convenient for our Denver chapter. Stay tuned and don't miss it!

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"I'm home and back to work today regaling everyone in the office with tales of my trip."

"I had so much fun even beyond smooching on a cute boy I find interesting."

"You have to plan another Eight at Eight vacation. I will go no matter where it is."

Sarah Kathryn goes to The Oprah Show for the Sex in the City Debut!

I got to attend as an audience member, the taping of The Oprah Show that featured Sex In the City The Movie. The entire cast was interviewed and I got to preview the movie! It was fantastic and you are going to love it. I'm sworn to secrecy (by Sarah Jessica Parker herself!) to not share any details. All I can say is I assure you it is worth it!

Oprah Show - Thursday, May 1st
Sex in the City Movie - In Theaters May 30th

Getting Ready for the trip to DESTIN!

We're closing the office this Thursday and Friday and taking the staff and 35 lovely singles to Destin, FL for a long weekend. Planning the trip has totally consumed our office because we want to make sure everyone has a blast. Photos will be posted next week.

The marketing efforts have really picked up as well! Check out all crap-ola we're bringing to the beach. After this weekend we are sure to need more members - folks are likely to couple off don't you think? Sun, sand, alcohol...... mmmm sounds like romance to me!

Diary of a First Time Hostess - Sandy

I was so excited and nervous about hosting my first Eight at Eight Dinner Party! I arrived at the restaurant 30 minutes early and parked myself at the bar while waiting for the first group of Eight at Eighters to arrive. The group of eight arrived around the same time and the drink orders flooded in! They were such a blast - everybody was just so excited to be there and to meet each other. The bartender did a wonderful job with everyone's drink and is in the photo attached. After 15 minutes of drinks, I escorted the group to their table to enjoy dinner together.

Everyone was enthusiastic and genuinely happy to be meeting each other. I think I had just as much fun as they did! I heard that the table even went back down to the bar after dinner to enjoy more cocktails together.

When everything was said and done, it was an all around fabulous evening. Second dates have already been set up and we have received wonderful feedback. I can't wait to hostess the next event! See you there!

Sandy, Atlanta
(In Photo - Sandy, Bartender, Elizabeth)

Sarah Kathryn is Interviewed by The Regular Guys in Atlanta

Sarah Kathryn surprised The Regular Guys this morning with bagels, coffee and dating advice! On Tuesdays they are changing formats to appeal only to ladies. We're trying to get South Side Steve to give an Eight at Eight Dinner a shot. He is quite the ladies man and only wants to participate if he can be the ONLY man at the table with seven women. We'll see....

Our little helpers

Some days we have more “employees” in the office than others. This was an especially busy Friday.

The Girls Night Out!

Our office had a blast last night at Sugarland's concert. If you're not into country music you wouldn't be impressed. But we had fun getting away from the phones, the emails, and then hostessing just for one night. Jennifer Nettles, the lead singer, is from the same hometown as Anna-Laura so we had front row - OF COURSE!

L-R in photo: SarahKathryn, Elizabeth, and Anna-Laura.

Wedding Bells are Ringing!

"I just wanted to let you know that you can remove me from your list. Bill and I met in September of 2006 and have been dating ever since. We just recently became engaged! We are in the planning stages of our wedding that's scheduled to take place May of 2009. I've told all my single friends about your services as we are both happier because of it."

Find Your Destiny in Destin, FL

This Week in Denver features Eight at Eight Dinner Club!

check out the EXCELLENT review 8at8 received on This Week in Denver!

For the Record – we’re never hosting this dinner!

Any one interested in having a unique dining experience? 50 meters above-ground-dining event, arranged by Benji Fun company in Belgium. It provides seating for 22, complete with Chef, server, and musician. You can select your own location without limitation. Guaranteed safety with the hoisting crane which can even accommodate an automobile presentation to your customers. http://www.dinnerinthesky.com/purchase.php

Ten Best Things About Being Single

You just came back from the holidays hanging out with family with a lot of grief about being single. It can be tough around married family and friends as we tend to be a “couples” society. Don’t feel down because you are by yourself. Remember, there are advantages to being single:

1. You can make last-minute plans with your friends
2. You can stay out all night if you want.
3. You can lie on both sides of your bed and have all the covers to yourself and you can stay up as late as you want.
4. You can flirt with the opposite sex without someone saying, “Who are you looking at?”
5. You can make your own decisions without conferring with a partner
6. You have no one to clean up after, unless you have a pet.
7. You can leave the toilet seat permanently up if you’re a man, or permanently down if you’re a woman.
8. You can make a list of things you always wanted to do…and actually do them without compromising whether it’s about where you are going on vacation or which club you will join.
9. You can listen to your favorite tunes in the car and in your house.
10. You control the remote.

Member photos!

So one business resolution we’ve got here at Eight at Eight is to take more snapshots of our members in action. When soliciting new members, they often want to see photos. We can’t divulge exact photos of our members but we can show you a variety of shots on the web that might entice more attractive, energetic, and fun singles to join. (yikes I hate that word singles) Sounds cheesie I know but how else do we describe our target market!?



Last night while hosting a dinner in the snow no less, we had a good looking bunch that were KIND enough to let us snap a few. If anyone wants to date these specifically good looking, successful and fun folks, just send us an email and we’ll pass it along. ☺ One gentleman opted to not be photographed.

Valentine’s is approaching

Wow – business has been crazy this week! Lots and lots of new applications. It is awesome and we’re signing up dozens of new members each week. Running a dating service can be challenging b/c the status of our members is constantly changing. Weekly we call members to set up dinners for them and they notify us that they are seeing someone or getting married. We’re glad to help during their single days but it is amazing how quickly their status changes.

Fan Mail

These are the types of emails that we receive about once a month. They are always welcome and encouraging words to keep our office going! A nice note to start the year….You can tell from the length that it is from a gentleman member:

By the way, thanks for introducing me to Stephanie last march.
We are getting married next weekend-
You can take me off the list...